You know those points in your life when everything is going alright, you’re all good, and then suddenly, you’re just not?
Your (normally enjoyable) job becomes burdensome. That daily commute drains all of the energy and life out of you. Every minor inconvenience is now monumental. And trying to access your brain power to finish that assignment? Impossible.
That was me last week.
I haven’t felt that way in months. Years, even. And it hit me like a ton of bricks.
I first noticed it when I had a long weekend at work. I had mentally prepared myself for the long hours, difficult people, and eventual physical exhaustion (I’m a waitress, and if anyone that tells you this job is easy – they’re lying). But alas, working the full weekend in our busiest location knocked me right on my booty.
Monday morning? I was the biggest grump – ever.
Tired, cranky, yearning for a day off from any and all responsibility. And throughout the week, it became more and more difficult not to have a breakdown mid-day. There were so many times I escaped to the bathroom at work just to have a moment to breathe. I’d give myself a pep talk, tell myself I could cry and yell and remove that customer-service mask once I got home. I muscled through the days, but you better believe I had a less-than-friendly smile on my face. Oops.
And my foul mood didn’t just make work difficult, it affected my motivation for schoolwork, for exercising, eating healthy, and simply for being kind to other people. My patience was at an all-time low. I felt as though all of my emotions were magnified, and I bounced from incredibly angry to distraught to helpless to frustrated. And for that whole week, it really felt like I had thrown away all of the progress and growth I’ve accomplished in the last few years.
Now if I had it my way, I’d be able to rid you all of that feeling forever.
Burnout like that is truly crippling, and if you’re in that place right now, I feel for you.
While I can’t free us all of the dreaded “funk”, I do have some tips for handling it and coming out better on the other side.
7 Tips for Getting Out of a Rut
1. Let Yourself Feel It
Trust me on this one.
You need to feel it buddy. You need to feel that hurt and that pain and that frustration, anger, sadness, emptiness, whatever it is you may be feeling.
Those feelings have presented themselves to you for a reason. The more you brush them off, box them up, or push them down, the stronger they will come back (and they always do come back). The best thing that you can do now is to feel them, honor them.
I’m not advising you to wallow in these feelings for weeks or months. But definitely give yourself a few days, a week, before you start the whole process of moving on and rebuilding. Spend your time introspectively, notice the things that are making you upset, angry, sad, etc. Acknowledge those things, those feelings. Try your best to understand them.
2. Get Some Good Sleep
I really felt like a brand new Laney once I had the chance to sleep in. A good, deep sleep can do wonders for both your mental and physical health.
- Improved memory function
- Boosted energy
- Reduced stress
- Lowered risk of depression
- Sparked creativity
Need I say more?
Now I know that getting more sleep is easier said than done, especially when we all have so much on our plate. So take note of any tasks that can be delayed. Then delay them. Any work that isn’t due today, do it tomorrow. Make any small sacrifices you need to get to sleep an hour or 2 earlier.
I’ve recently started taking Melatonin supplements to help me fall asleep earlier, and I love spraying my pillows or my room with an essential oils spray. This one from Anthropologie has a blend of lavender, chamomile, and vanilla to promote full relaxation.
Bonus tip: Nighty Night Tea. This one to be exact. Melatonin + essential oils + nighty night tea = the best sleep of your damn life.
3. Lean On Your People (Or Your Journal)
Your friends, your parents, your S.O, your mentor, your siblings. They all want you to be happy. They all want you to be well.
When you’re feeling overwhelmed, talk it out. I’m the most stubborn person ever when it comes to talking about my feelings, but it helps.
I blubbered to my boyfriend about all of my worries about school and money and student loans and apartments and my job and my career and suddenly, I felt lighter. I wasn’t instantly better and happy again, but I felt like I had lifted a bit of the weight on my shoulders. After sharing my stresses, I was able to talk things out with him, and discover the stressors that I had control over (like my work schedule – guess who requested all of next weekend off! Bless!) There’s no sense or purpose in stressing out over things you have no control over, so talking things through and identifying what those things are will ease some pressure.
If talking with someone else isn’t your jam, writing can be just as therapeutic. In every journaling/writing workshop I’ve taken, they’ve instructed us to write CONTINUOUSLY for the first 10 minutes. Continuously as in your pen never leaves the paper. Write down anything. Start with hi my name is laney im upset right now I’m tired blah blah. When you have no thoughts left, scribble. Doodle. Keep pen on paper. Your thoughts will come back, and you’ll feel lighter once they’re written down and out of your mind.
4. Remind Yourself of Your WHY
The most helpful tip for me when pulling myself out of a funk is to remind myself of WHY I do what I do. Why am I in school? Why am I working the job that I am? What’s the WHY behind all of the hours I spend working on this blog?
After talking it out with your people (or your journal), it’s time to get even more introspective. Think about the things that are stressing you out in your life. What led you to feeling this burnout, how did you get into this funk? How are you allocating your time/effort?
To help you answer these questions, I’ve created a handy dandy lil workbook for you! Presenting: The Elevate Your Happiness workbook (insert dancing girl emoji).
I know how it feels to be completely overwhelmed. This book will help break through that overwhelm and give you the info you need to make some serious changes in your life. The best part? It’s FREE for you to download. Yep. AND it’ll instantly be sent to your inbox (’cause I love ya).
Y’all, it’s 18 pages of USEFUL, APPLICABLE KNOWLEDGE and plenty of writing/thought prompts to help you elevate your happiness.
If you want to snag your free copy, click down below!
I’m so, so, SO excited for you to read.
5. Plan Something Fun
The best cure for the blues is some sunshine (figuratively AND literally – get that vitamin D). When you’re in a funk, find something to look forward to.
Your sunshine can be:
- a vacation
- a concert
- a shopping spree
- a class on something you’ve always wanted to learn
- a night out with your friends
- a day trip
- trying a new activity
- anything that will bring you JOY
Just the thought of heading back to California for vacation this summer, or whisking my boyfriend away on a romantic trip made me so happy. Even with nothing set in stone, my spirits have 100% lifted, and my mind wanders with thoughts of adventure and fun.
6. Shift Your Mindset – Self-Care = Health-Care
Sometimes self care looks like chinese food, sweat pants, and binging The Great British Baking Show. I get it. That was my nightly routine last week (ashamed of myself but also…not).
But mostly, self care is exactly that – caring for your self. And how do we care for ourselves? Through eating healthily, moving our bodies, staying hydrated, getting our sh*t done.
Related Post: 30 Ways to Practice Self Care
It’s funny how the things you want to do the least, are the things that will make you feel the best.
My motivation for anything exercise or vegetables absolutely flies out the window when I’m in a funk, but it truly is the best medicine. Our bodies like nutrients, they like exercise, they like water. If we give them what they like, they’ll be nice to us in return.
- Get yourself to the grocery store, stock up on good, whole foods.
- Move your body – walk, run, dance, skip, hike, stretch, bend. Move.
- Drink up – your water bottle is your new best friend. Keep it with you at all times.
7. Create a Vision Board
One of my best friends texted me the other day, “I made a vision board for the first time recently and I’m so excited!”
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – vision boards are my frickin favorite. They are a source of inspiration, motivation, joy, excitement, and hope. (Plus, if you care enough, they can be super aesthetically pleasing.)
Vision boards act as a visual reminder of your goals. Our brains like to see things – it helps them to process information. So seeing photos of your dream vacation destination, of money, of a healthy lifestyle, of happy people etc. will help your brain process these dreams.
Lately I’ve been using my Pinterest as my continuous, virtual vision board and I looooove it. Every day I’m more inspired to live healthily, dream B I G, and harness my creativity. Come follow along – Love, Laney on Pinterest.
Take your vision board one step further – create some SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-Bound.
Dreams —> Goals —> Plans —> Reality.
Make that sh*t happen.
Alright friends, that’s all I have for you today! Remember to snag your FREE copy of my Elevate Your Happiness Workbook right down here.
I hope with all of my heart that these tips will help you out of your funk. Always remember that you’re never alone, there are always people who will listen to you, and who want you to be your happiest, healthiest self.