Alright I know February is a short month, but boy did March sneak up on me.
I barely realized it was a new month of my Happiness Project until a few days in! February’s focus on education did me well, currently holding A’s in all 4 of my classes. Happy camper right here.
After 4 months focusing on myself, it feels appropriate to spend this month of March focusing on someone who’s a giant part of my life – my boyfriend, Nick.
Nick and I have been together a little over 9 months now, so well before I started this blog. Since meeting him, he’s become the ultimate support system; giving me endless encouragement for not only this blog, but going back to school, and any other dream I can dream. He’s my best friend, and I’m endlessly grateful for all of the adventure and joy he’s brought to my life. While we’re still working on the whole “instagram-boyfriend” thing, he tries his very best to help me with photos and content creation, and it doesn’t go unnoticed.
I truly could not ask for a more outstanding partner, so I want to make sure I’m treating him just as wonderfully as he’s treating me. These past 9 months have been the happiest I’ve ever had, and we have a healthy, loving relationship. This month is all about maintaining this happy train, and continuing to be the best partner for him.
And so, a new Happiness Project month calls for all new Resolutions!
1. Practice Patience
Anyone in my life can tell you, I’m horribly impatient. And I know it, too. I’ve got this incredibly short temper, and a real nasty attitude when I’m frustrated. Not cool. The other night, I enlisted Nick’s help for an Excel assignment, and when we hit a little problem, I started snapping at him. I was frustrated at the program, but taking it out on him. He who was only trying to help me. He who did not have to help me, but was doing so out of love. Effort should never be met with anger. I know that my impatience is one of my flaws, so I am pledging to myself and to him to be more patient, and understand that just because I’m upset, doesn’t mean he needs to get punished.
2. Quality Time
As busy as I am, I always try to incorporate as much time together as I can when Nick is home from school on the weekends. But sitting next to him while I write a blog post or asking him to help me with homework isn’t quality time. It’s time together, yes, but my mind is elsewhere. Continuing to practice Mindfulness and devoting quality time to our relationship will definitely do us both some good. He deserves my full attention, not my distracted mind when I tell him I can snuggle for 20 minutes before I have more work to do.
3. Keep Trying New Things
From the beginning of our relationship, we’ve always been adventurers. He urges me to try new foods, new activities, and I teach him things that I know about and he’s never heard of. I’ve learned names of construction equipment, he’s learned some basic music theory. In the summer, we took a trip to the Dominican Republic, somewhere neither of us have been before. We often try to go to new cities or try new restaurants. Since I have so much going on lately, it’s hard for us to keep up with this. Especially because I get out of work in the afternoon, and I’m tired after working long days and have no energy to go explore or go out. This month, I’m dedicating a couple of days or full afternoons to doing something new with my favorite person. I’m definitely excited for some more fun date nights!
4. Be the Partner You Want to Have
Recently I had a conversation with a friend of mine about her ideal man. I asked her to rattle off a list of traits she’d want her partner to have. The list consisted of things like, “reliable, ambitious, self-sufficient, hard-working”. Then I asked her, are you those things? Do you embody everything you want in a partner? The important thing to remember is that a relationship is not about what your partner will do for you, but what you can do for them. I have a partner that is lively, supportive, ambitious, and focused. I plan on making sure that I am the best version of myself, for him.
5. Stop Nagging
I know I’m a nag. He might not think so, but I catch myself all of the time. “Cook the steak a little longer”, “Hurry up”, “C’mon babe, let’s go”. Nobody likes a nag. I seriously get annoyed at myself. Why do I do it? Who knows. What I do know, is that he’s a grown man, and can take care of himself. He knows what he’s doing and why he’s doing it, and he doesn’t need a back seat driver. He knows he has to be ready to go by 7:30, he doesn’t need me reminding him 5 times. Essentially, resolution number 5 is to know when to just shut my mouth. I need to let him do him, and know that it’s all gonna be alright. Me not saying every little nit-picky thing will only do good for the both of us.
My heart is all warm just thinking about how good this month is going to be, not only for me, but for Nick too.
Let me know if you try any of these tips! I always love to hear from you!